A Sense of SECURITY is a Fundamental Building Block in the Pursuit of Wholeness - the wholeness of an individual and of a relationship.
What if you had someone in your life who was fully committed to your wholeness as a person, someone who sacrificially pursued your sense of security every single day? How would that impact your ability to thrive? To stay encouraged? To pursue God's big and small purposes for your life? Today, we're looking at the important building block that is GIVING THE GIFT OF SECURITY to those you love. Our examples are regarding marriage, but you can take these principles and apply them to parenthood TO HELP YOUR CHILD THRIVE because of a sense of security.
In this episode I'm joined by your favorite host, and my all-time favorite person, my husband Rich. Episode 54 is one more building block in helping those you love THRIVE and grow closer to WHOLENESS as an individual and WHOLENESS in your relationship.
Relational Security- Security within your RELATIONSHIP
TRANSPARENCY- My spouse has the confidence that I am being open, fully honest, disclosing everything. It is vulnerable accountability and a commitment to complete truth. "Usually the things that I don't want to bring up... are the exact things that I need to bring up." "If you are fully, vulnerably honest with me... that gives me a real sense of security that I can really trust you."
Maintaining agreed upon BOUNDARIES to honor the relationship
Avoiding the self-protection trap - a barrier to oneness
DEFENDING the one you love- "My level of defense for you reflects my value of you."
GENTLENESS- treat their emotions and vulnerability with tenderness; not using what they say against them, not manipulating. Respecting, treasuring, "I'm a gentle cheerleader of the fact that you are willing to be transparent."
Provisional Security- Security in material aspects of life
INCOME STABILITY- Healthy work/home balance, maintaining stability in job, partnering in position changes or potential job changes.
FINANCES- Common financial goals and strategies (spending limits, budgeting, use of debt, etc.)
MAINTAINING OUR RESOURCES- Honoring each other by each fully participating in keeping our things in good repair and manageable.
Family Security- Security regarding how we manage our family
PARENTING- each parent equally engaged in raising children, identifying concerns, developing character, imparting spiritual truths and development
SYSTEMS- "Driving kids places, scheduling, laundry, meals, keeping the house clean, the kids' chores, maintaining the home in other ways. There are many aspects that play a... role in how smoothly life happens as a family." It can be very demoralizing if only one parent is implementing the systems that help a family function with stability while the other parent is ignoring the systems or not contributing to the complex creating and maintaining of systems.
LEGACY- "We're partnered together in our legacy, thinking long-term in impacting their view of God, themselves, relationships, family, work, citizenship..."
RESOURCES
Episode 8 Redeeming Your Marriage and Developing ONENESS - choosing God's BEST in our marriage
Episode 23 Negative Communication Habits & Communication Games that have Got to Go
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Prayer Request from Val: I would appreciate your prayers as I seek to determine God's will in covering the costs of the ministry. I don't know if He would rather I create a membership, have sponsors, do more coaching (parenting and homeschooling), or something else... I know that God has called me to this ministry, including the podcast, at this time in my life. Now I'm waiting for Him to fund it. Thanks so much for your prayers with me. I would also value your feedback on this issue.
About the Practically Speaking MOM
Mother of seven, Val Harrison, knows how you feel as a dedicated yet overwhelmed mom! Speaking at conventions, moms' groups, and in parenting classes for many years, Val encourages and equips parents with practical solutions in all stages of parenthood. Val wants you to remember that even with all of its unique personalities, imperfections, and scars – your family is God’s masterpiece in the making!
Note from Val
I married my high school sweetheart, Rich, and we have been married 28 years. It hasn’t been perfect, but it has been redeemed! If you’d like more of the story about our marriage, keep an eye on the Master Suite section of my website where we’ll be sharing more principles for growing a strong marriage.
We have four girls and three boys. The oldest three are married and we have two grandsons. Of course I can’t leave out our family dogs Copper and Cali.
As a mom, I have always been committed to learning from my mistakes, asking for forgiveness, and allowing God to transform our wounds into His beautiful story of hope and healing. I continually remain in awe of His ability to turn my mistakes into His ministry. I am humbled and grateful.
